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Soft Heart Technique

SoftHeartRidersMindComManage your energetic state of being and your actions will manage themselves…
As horse people we can get caught up in ‘doing it right’ but our horses are far more interested in the intention behind the actions. Next time things aren’t going as you planned, pause and listen to your head traffic – is it empowering ie. calm, encouraging, appreciative etc, or dis-empowering ie. anxious, judgemental, frustrated etc?
If you don’t like what you hear, try this Soft Heart technique to shift to a empowered energetic state…
  1. Recognise what you are feeling, denial can’t make the feelings go away but a Soft Heart can
  2. Remember, it’s not the situation that cause your dis-empowerment, but the significance you’re giving it
  3. Find your Soft Heart attitude by feeling love, care or appreciation for a person, your horse or something you really care about. This is a reset button for your state
  4. Allow any unwanted feelings to bathe in the compassion of your softened heart, letting the significance dissolve. Take all the time you need to do this
  5. Keeping your attention in a Soft Heart can help you recoup mental, emotional and physical balance and vitality
  6. Be gentle with your human-ness – you are doing the best you can at that moment

Remembering to soften your heart when you are struggling helps you come back to easygoing compassion for yourself and your horse. It’s not a mushy or self-pitying place. It’s a place of ease, self-care and empowerment. Fantastic things can happen in this state…

Adapted from the HeartMath Institute.

What’s at the heart of your time with horses?

Sometimes having horses in our lives can get really complicated – mysterious health issues (for both of us…), advice from ‘guru’s’ coming from all directions, nagging questions in your heart about doing the ‘right thing’ by you horse, this list goes on and on and on….

Personally this year I have had quite a few times when I got stuck wondering what to do with my fulla, Fly. The irony was each time I played with the thought ‘what if I’m not the best person for him’ things changed. I know this doesn’t sound like ‘positive thinking’ but somehow it gave me the humility to stop trying to be the ‘best’ person and just do the best I could with what I knew at the time and let that be enough.

I stopped attaching to the outcome of our time together and let ‘trusting relationship’ be the most important thing. If that couldn’t be found in the saddle then I got off and started at first base – standing together quietly, sometimes with my ear on his belly listening to him breathe (when a girth on he often breathes so shallow that I don’t feel any rise and fall).

My ego fought with weapons of shame like ‘you are an experienced rider – get on and sort him out’ but my heart said there is no win/lose in trusting relationship – only lose/lose or win/win – trust cannot grow individually at the expense of another – it’s an ‘us’ game.

This got me to thinking about what my life with horses had been all about. And I realised at the heart of it was a little girl hugging a hairy pony knowing that she would love horses for the rest of her life, come what may.

Thank you for liking this page – it has taken much soul searching and detours for me to step into supporting horses and riders find happiness together. I wish you and your horse a very Merry Christmas xxx